In previous posts, I introduced the idea that the human need to love and be loved can be viewed as having levels. The Pseudo-Love Level is a false kind of love: i. e. infatuation, love-sickness, and falling-in-love (review previous posts). The Theory of Balanceology denotes Basic-Love as the next level of love. The Basic-Love Level is the opposite of a pseudo short-term falling-in-love, because it is long-term growing-in-love. Ideally, over time two people grow from a me-love (self-focus), to a we-love (we-focus). Growing-in-love is taking our Belonging-Need to a more advanced level. It involves balancing-out the distance between the Self and another person. I view love as a maturational process that grows and deepens over time. When I was young, I just didn’t realize the time-and-effort it takes to love a stranger. For Robert Nozick, “what is common to all love is this: your own well-being is tied up with someone you love.” (1989) Paul Tillich said, “Erich Fromm has fully expressed the idea that the right self-love and the right love of others are interdependent, and that selfishness and the abuse of others are equally interdependent.” (1952) A hero of mine, Erich Fromm calls love an art, and in the Art of Love (1956) he identifies his four powerful elements of love —> care, responsibility, respect, and knowledge. I will use the word condition instead of element. In a post to come, I will elaborate on the Theory of Balanceology’s 5-conditions of basic-love (growing-in-love). Feel free to comment and give your views on what I posted here.