Pseudo Love: Love-sickness

Love-sickness is another condition of Pseudo-Love. For Pseudo-Love has an  intense possessiveness to it that can become a kind of love-sickness. The Greeks called this love-sickness theia mania, or love madness. Greek physician Galen said theia mania can produce hormonal imbalance and bodily sickness. Love-sickness has emotional, psychological, and physical components that combine to decrease a person’s energy and a true mind-body sickness ensues. Love-sickness can include erotomania where a person believes another person seriously loves them even if they don’t. Love sickness is about living for another’s acceptance and emotionally dying from another’s rejection. Love-sickness is excessive (philocaptive) and obsessive (compulsive).  Excessive and obsessive love is unhealthy love that is painful, stormy, and pathological. Excessive and obsessive love really involves the object of love and not love. Neale Walsch (2004) said the four symptoms of obsessive love are: 1.) preoccupation (addictive), 2.) episodes of melancholy, 3.) episodes of rapture, and 4.) instability of mood. Theia mania is frequently the subject of poets, artists, painters, philosophers, novelists, movies, and music. In the novel Of Human Bondage, W. Somerset Maughan gives an account of Philip who has an unhealthy love obsession with the ungrateful and narcissistic Mildrew. She manipulates his need for love for her own selfish wants. In Thus Spoke Zarathustra, Nietzsche said, “there is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness.” (1800’s) Actually, all types of romantic love are bittersweet since all levels of love have ups and downs? The topic of love-sickness is open to discussion and debate.


4 thoughts on “Pseudo Love: Love-sickness

  1. Unlike true love, infatuation, (this form of love) this infatuation that has spawned so much in terms of poetry, obsession, and even death and maiming, is less accurate than the Greek forms of love, which are given their own words, are much more descriptive than our modern version of love. We need a much richer and more descriptive form of love than is called love in our language. Though English borrows from other languages, Greek included, we could at least use much more descriptive and accurate terms. This pseudo love (borrowed from Roman language) is not well described. We should not only use better terms but realize what this pseudolove actually is, and it is NOT love. If only the afflicted — the infatuated — realized that this pseudolove is not love at all and not end up in its tangled web where we, the infatuated do not harm ourselves or the object of our infatuation. Much harm would not end up in court or jail. Pseudolove, or infatuation, is not true love; it is infatuation and should be recognized as such.

    As soon as infatuation is mistaken for love, it should die a natural death: affect and die — much like a cold we catch, but do not spread about. Balance is — or at least should be — maintained always.

    Okay, so there would be fewer movies, less poetry, fewer stalkers, and even fewer afflicted — or infected — and a happier world.

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