In a previous post, I stated the Theory of Balancelogy suggests there are both forms and levels of love. This post focuses on the forms of love. Love-Forms are identified according to where love is directed: 1.) Parental love is probably the most pure, instinctual and selfless form of love. Pearson advanced the notion that, “nothing is greater than parental love.” ( 2010) What does it take for a house to become a home? The answer is love. Maternal and paternal love sets the stage for, “the child is the father of the man.” That is, the conditions of childhood will have a lot to do with the man or woman that child becomes. The more time spent with one’s child the better. Time is especially important during the vital 1st 1,000 days of life when so much mental and physical growth takes place. Good parents have the responsibility to provide, to guide, and to love. Good parents are able to be both kind-and-firm with the child they are raising. The family ideally builds a protective circle for love to flourish. Parental love is shown by providing a stable home that helps the child get situated for his/her life journey to come. A stable home is built on a sound emotional, psychological, and behavioral foundation, 2.) Dyadic love is a mutual love between two individuals that concerns attachment, affiliation, connection, and belonging. Deeper dyadic love is a romantic love where person-to-person and spirit-to-spirit bonding happens. Dyadic love can be difficult to categorize and define because love often depends on cultures and the cultures view of Nature and human nature. Dyadic love can be challenging to achieve, 3.) Brotherly love includes sound true friendships of attachment and affiliation. True friendships of the kind, “I have your back no matter what” can be a formidable task to find. In Western nations romantic love is the ideal, but in many Asian nations the development of friendships is stressed. Gradually brotherly love can extend beyond personal friendships and take the form of an overall concern and connection with humanity. This extension can evolve into a global concern for one’s fellow human beings. Over time, I assert that brotherly love can have a philanthropic component to it —> detailed in posts to come.
