Love and Affection

In the feedback I am receiving, related to the recent posts I made about the human need for love, I am starting to realize the many, many different ways people view and define love. I suspect a person’s perception and conception of love is based on their experiences with love.  In the Theory of Balanceology,  the concept of love is being written according to research related to love,  what various writers and poets have said about love, and my own experiences with love.  I invite readers to consider what is being documented here about human love.  I have asked, “How is love and affection related?” Affection can set the stage for attachment, affiliation, connection, and belonging with another person. It  appears that we seek succorance  —> affectionate care.  Affection can include caresses, hugs, cuddling, kissing, and skin contact. Edward Ford suggests that affection, “can be an important sign of love, where we hold, kiss, touch or embrace a person, we are demonstrating through those behaviors how we perceived another and that we want him or her part of our world.” (1983)During some forms of affection oxytocin (the cuddle hormone) can be released. Over time mutual affection may evolve into some level of love. I agree with Jane Austen that, “anything is to be preferred or endured than marrying without affection.” (1900’s) However, affection by itself is not love. Love is more than affection, a feeling, or a mood. Love is more than an emotion. The emotions of happiness, anxiety, jealousy, sadness and even anger can co-occur in some form in relationship to love. But emotions by themselves are not love. Certain poets inform us that love involves affection, moods, emotions, and feelings but also transcends them. Love includes biochemistry, thoughts, a sense of worth, morality, spirituality, and for romantic love sexuality. I attest that love must involve deeper attachment and affiliation with another human being. I declare that love surely must involve making deeper connections with and belonging with (not to) another human being.  I welcome any feedback to this post.



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