In recent posts I discussed how the Theory of Balanceology maintains that we humans have inherited needs that must be satisfied, to some degree, in order to live a life in balance and one that is healthy. The theory suggests that we have the Basal Self-Needs for safety/security, worth, empowerment, and enjoyment, and also the Basal Belonging Needs for interpersonal and social contact (review if needed). The more the basal needs are satisfied, the more the stage is set to satisfy our deeper needs for sex, love, morality, emotions, and consciousness. In previous posts, I discussed the deeper need for sex (review if needed). Over the next several posts I will discuss our need for love. What I write is based on research related to love, my understanding of the human condition, and my own experiences related to love. I invite readers to share your own experiences and understanding of love.
Thus, the posts to come concern our innate need to love and to be loved, and loves potential to reach the depths of intimacy. I have asked many times, “What is love?” Amore is assuredly one of Nature’s special gifts. I joyfully proclaim that, “love is one of the greatest gifts this world has to offer!” In the posts that follow, I will share some of my deeper journey into experiencing and understanding this love-gift. We humans are amorous and amative creatures. I have a deep hunger in my heart to love and to be loved. I deeply desire heart-to-heart intimacy. I know that love is a primal need, a higher calling, and an essential mystery. Pool maintained that love is “an instinct rooted in our physical constitution.” (1966) Whether acknowledged or not, all of us need to love and to be loved. Unimpeachably love seeks love. Sigmund Freud said a mature person needs, “lieben und arbeiten” —-> to love and to work. I know that love is a natural awakening primary energetic and life-force for humans. I unquestionably state that it is essential that we experience the nature of this love and life-force. I have come to appreciate what Albert Camus meant when he said, “without love this world is a dead world,” (1947), and Oscar Wilde saying, “who, being love, is poor.”