In the Theory of Balanceology, human sex and sexuality are presented as an inborn deeper need that we must address. Various religions and cultures have tried to banish this need, but they don’t succeed. Sigmund Freud said what we try to repress will end up being constantly on our mind. Freud said, “repression leads to preoccupation.” Or, for Bishop Pearson, “what you resist persists, and what you fight, you often ignite.” (2010) We simply desire what we try to repress. Eldredge felt, “people are obsessed with sex.” (2004) Repression and obsession will ultimately lead to anxiety, insecurity, fears, jealousies, loneliness, and finding a multitude of ways to displace one’s sexual need. According to Colman, “the drive to understand the mysteries of sex and to enjoy the mystery of arousal are far more powerful than the prohibitions placed on society on sexual activity.” (1975) It is not possible to repress one’s true nature or one’s sexual desires. To repress ANY facet of one’s humanity violates all other aspects of one’s humanity. To repress our sexual need, can hurt our ability to relate to others both sexually and socially. The repression of sexual feelings, I assure you will lead to all types of feelings being repressed. Repressed sexual energy will displace to emotional problems, an inability to be truly intimate with another person, a surreal fantasy sex life, excessive sexuality, obsessive sexuality, sexual abuse of others, promiscuity, and for some the tendency to sexualize just about everything. I agree with Glenn Wilson that, “if all outlets are suppressed, many people simply become frustrated and neurotic. This was one of the great insights that made Sigmund Freud famous and may of hastened the end of the Victorian era of sex repression by making people aware that others were just as sexually preoccupied as themselves and that driving the sex instinct underground can give rise to unpleasant side effects.” (1981) In the following quote, Sigmund Freud was referring to unexpressed emotions, but he could have just as likely been referring to unexpressed sexuality:
