Human Loneliness

Loneliness – In the Theory of Balanceology, I maintain anxiety, paranoia, and having trust issues are all part of the human condition.  That is, they are situated somewhere on the human genome. I now state so is loneliness! There are times it can be a cold and lonely world. Weiss stated, “loneliness is among the most common distresses.” (1980) Loneliness affects us emotionally, psychologically, physically, socially, and spiritually. Most of us are lonely in some way. I often realize that at the end of the day (sometimes during the day), and mostly at bedtime when I close my eyes, I retreat into the reclusiveness and safety of my inner thinking and feeling chamber. At those times I know that I am truly alone within the solipsistic reality that resides inside my head. At sleep and at other times I require time to be alone; I require me-time. All of us at times need an innermost sanctum where we can retreat to. However, I know it is never a good idea to completely withdraw from others —> it is not a good to be absolutely alone. I need people in my life! To extensively disengage myself from others doesn’t allow me to get in touch with the needs of others. To exfiltrate myself from others doesn’t allow me to get in touch with my own needs. There are serious consequences attached to utter aloneness.  The loneliness coming from arrant solitude has a direct correlation with mind-body health —> i. e. extensive isolation is emotionally and physically unhealthy.  I think utter loneliness for some can be seen where Sidney Jourard says, “the lonely, who lack a lover to caress them to sleep, turn to tranqulizers.”  (1971) I have come to understand that there are two types of loneliness:   1.) interpersonal loneliness is related to family and dyadic attachments and affiliations. Here the Self has few interpersonal connections and interpersonal Belonging-Needs are not being met, and 2.) social loneliness is related to not having social and community attachments and affiliations. Social loneliness is about the Self having few social and community connections, and that keeps the person’s social Belonging-Needs from being met. Question:  What do you think?


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