The Theory of Balanceology suggests that when our need for empowerment starts heading in the direction of power, it takes on a narcissistic component to it.  According to Paul Tillich, “there is a narcissism in power.” (1952)  The power-centered person is a narcissistic person. Human nature makes for all of us having a narcissistic component to our personality that says, “look at me and see how great I am.” However, the power-centered person can probably be legitimately diagnosed with a Narcissistic Personality Disorder. This narcissism revolves around and pertains to a malignancy of excessive self-love. This narcissism envelops insolence, superiority, arrogance, rudeness, disrespect, and belittlement of others. David Bakan maintained that the consequences of power-control will only end up where it, “manifests itself in isolation, alienation, and aloneness, repression of thought, feeling and impulse.” (1966) I portend that a person who has a power-centered narcissism will have a major handicap in trying to satisfy Belonging-Needs, and such a person will find themselves emotionally and socially alone. Narcissism equals aloneness because a want for power overtakes the need to belong. In Choices, William Glasser points out that a lot of human misery comes from trying to control others (1998). This misery is both for the one being controlled, but also for the controlling person. Those power-seekers who try to control others will find that any level of contentment will not be possible by making other people miserable.


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